Hygiene

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In the Shower:

1. African Sponge or Japanese Wash Cloth

   • I only use this because they don’t trap dirt or bacteria like a

   • Clean behind your ears

2. Unfragranced Body Wash

   • Start

3. Fragranced Body Wash or Body Scrub

• Makes the scent last on your skin

Post Shower:

1. Completely Dry Yourself

   1. Cotton bud to dry your belly button

2. Lotions & Oils

   1. Apply an unfragranced lotion first

   2. Then apply your oils

3. Getting A Scent

   1. Essential oil

   2. Fragranced lotion

   3. Perfume

5 Lessons

Always look people in the eyes.

There’s a lot your brain can register through eye contact. Avoiding eye contact won’t make you safe. It only blinds part of your senses and makes you a target.

Af daboolan waa dehab. A closed mouth is gold.

Your words depreciates in value once it leaves your mouth. If you’re nervous about what and how to communicate with someone, you either aren’t psychologically safe with this person, you are at war with yourself, or a blend of both. Remember your words are gold, and not everyone deserves it.

Pinch yourself in public and take a deep breath alone

The truth is you can’t out think a stressed state, but taking a deep breath in the middle of an argument can disrupt the flow or aggravate someone who is prone to hostility. Instead, I pinch my thigh under a table or cross my arms and pinch my forearm. This forces my brain to divert energy to where I pinched, which helps slow my brain from racing and helps me find a path to deescalate, reroute, or exit an intense situation. I hope this can help you.

Never play a zero sum game in your relationships

A zero sum game is a situation where one person can only win if another person loses. The reality is, there are no winners in relationships like this, and seeking closure through “losing” is giving the other person a kind of power of you. Your energy is best spent elsewhere like channeling your rage to better yourself & achieve your goals.

Low self esteem leads to low standards

Permitting poor behavior from others is a subconscious way of saying “I deserve to be treated this way.” You might think this is harmless at first, but once you let it pile up, you will damage the view you have of yourself and the person you see in the mirror will start to look different. You shouldn’t have to shout from the mountain tops to have someone treat you with basic respect.

Treatments

For any beauty treatment, go somewhere reputable. It is better to get nothing done than to be botched, burned, or bruised.

My rule of thumb is to go to a place that specializes in what you want to get done. For something like laser hair removal, at the bare minimum the med spa you go to should specialize in it. And I would rather you travel to a city with access to higher quality spa services than risk you getting hurt. This is me speaking from experience.

Here are the beauty services I regularly get and recommend. In the future, I’d definitely like to get more massages and facials.

Treatments I get:

1. Eyebrow Threading

   • I do this 1-2 times a month, it’s a must

   • If I need a touch up and can’t make it to a salon, I will tweeze my own.

   • I like going to Nepali eye brow spots. I always have a favorite threader.

2. Lash Lifts and Extensions

   • I only do this for special events, holidays, or if I need an emotional pick-me-up

   • I used to do this more regularly, but harsh chemicals near the eye is a no-go for me

   • Here’s what I do to fake a lash lift daily:

     • Apply lanolin to your eye lashes then curl your lashes with a warm eyelash curler. Thank me later

3. Laser hair removal

   • Under arms

     • When I first started I got it done every 4-6 weeks for 6 months. This removes most of the hair. Now I touch up as necessary every 18 months

     • Any hyper pigmentation from shaving your underarms will fade

   • Brazilian

     • I only did enough sessions to thin the hair growth. This is too intimate to go into detail, but just keep this in mind if you decide to go this route.

4. Manicures

   • I get my nails done every 3 weeks

   • If you are going to a salon and want a long lasting manicure go for a builder gel

     • I only use The Gel Bottle BIAB colors

     • If you have a hard to growing your nails, you will be able to get length if you use a builder gel

   • I think just a clear coat is sexy

Makeup Starter Pack

Before the falsies and smokey eyes, you need to know how accomplish an undetectable base makeup.

My makeup philosophy:

Don’t Follow The Rules

• Think of a product’s intended use a suggestion. revisit and remix your cultures’ beauty traditions, and take the tips I give you as a guide, but have the freedom to make it your own

Treat Makeup like painting

• Think of your face as a canvas and your makeup as paints that you are blending. Take it to the next level by mixing different blushes.

Sometimes More is More

• Try new things, makeup will will wash off at the end of the night. Live a little.

The Undetectable Base:

Pre-Makeup

1. Always wash your face and moisturize before applying makeup

2. Apply extra moisturizer or eye cream under eyes to help with concealer application

3. Once the moisturizer absorb into your skin, apply a makeup primer

4. Drink water throughout. I hate to say it, but it’s true

Makeup Routine:

1. Always start with your brows

   It makes your face look more complete which makes you less likely to over apply face makeup.

2. Then Spot conceal

   Apply concealer to any spots or marks first, then diffuse the edges to blend it into skin.

3. After that do your eye concealer

   To prevent ceasing, avoid getting too close to the lash line. Also, eye bags are sexy

4. Go in with foundation

   Since you spot concealed first, you only need to apply enough to blend everything together and make the look cohesive

5. And dust everything with blush and bronzer

   The face naturally has color to it, and the goal of blush and bronzer is to bring some of that color to the face

Some Bonus Notes:

1. On Brushes

   • Expensive brushes aren’t all that

   • If the brush itches, it will irritate your skin

   • Clean your brushes AT LEAST once a week

2. On Makeup Sponges

   • The original pink and black beauty blender work better than the other colors.

   • Soak your beauty blender in water, squeeze out the excess water, than squeeze it out again in a paper towel or clean towel

3. Go Mini

   • I’m a huge fan of buying the mini version of a product

   • It gives you the opportunity to try something out and exploring different shades

4. Toss it

   • Make sure to toss out any expired makeup

   • Declutters products you haven’t used in a long time to downsize or make room for something new

Skincare

Last year I had the worst break out in my entire life, and it absolutely tanked my self-esteem. I started spending hours online watching skin-care routines and swiping my credit card each time I might’ve found the next “perfect” product. I ended up spending thousands of dollars at Sephora and Ulta, ruining my skin barrier, and breaking out even worse than before. I even stopped eating cheese, which if you know me..this was unthinkable.

At this point, I was desperate and needed to change my approach. My time and money would be better spent going to dermatologist, and now I have wisdom for that experience, a solid skin care regime, and healthier approach to skin care that I’ll share below.

My Skin care philosophy:

1. There will be no fragranced products on My face

2. Being consistent is better than being fancy

3. Keep removing Your makeup until nothing transfers on a cotton pad

4. Just because a product is viral doesn’t mean that it is good enough for you

5. Seek a licensed professional before listening to an influencer

My Routine:

Morning Routine:

Pre workout

1. Rinse with water

2. Apply a light moisturizer

   Post workout

3. Use a face wash

   •  Every other day, I use a face wash with Benzoyl Peroxide

4. Apply a day-time Moisturizer

Night Routine:

1. Micellar Water with cotton pad

2. Oil Cleanse - only when wearing makeup

3. Face Wash

4. Apply Treatment - Tretinoin

5. Night Moisturizer